by Jiz Lee ~ August 27, 2008
I’m going back home very soon and remembered that I’ve been meaning to post about my friend R. Kikuo Johnson.
A friend from grade school, he’s now a successful comic/graphic novel illustrator. His first publication, Night Fisher, is a story based on his adolescent experiences growing up on Maui. He sent it to me some time late in college, and it gives me nostalgia and reconnection with home every time I open it.
(Can I just say that in 3rd grade, I TOTALLY won 1st place in our county’s Elementary School Art Contest, and he only got, like 2nd place. So there.)
Hehe… ; ) Life catches up with us, and I thought to check out his website again.
And this struck me.
You can find more of R. Kikuo’s work at www.seabread.com.
by Jiz Lee ~ August 22, 2008
Spanking has not always been my friend. Why not?
#1 It reminds me of my mother who used to spank me as punishment. Even the possibility of thinking of my mom during an erotic moment kills the mood.
#2 I didn’t know during my budding experiments as a spanking bottom that I could have any control over the way I was being hit. Without getting what I wanted, it just hurt. There was also the ex whose bedroom smacks escalated into physical abuse. Yup, there’s no eroticism around that kind of pain.
#3 I didn’t know the difference between a thud and a slap. To me, a spank was a spank; I did not know the possibility of subtilty, variation, fantasy, eroticism, different materials, or a well-versed top who listens to your needs. I didn’t even know until more recent years that I too could dish out the smacks, and find a powerful excitement about that role. And that this power could be consensual and clearly communicated.
Learning about impact play was like learning there is more than one kind of cheese than Velveta. It happened over the course of good lovers and google. All spanks are not created equal, and that’s the beauty of them. I’ve since learned to appreciate the spank. Here’s a little of what I know:
To me, a spank means a strike with a flat object like an open palm and includes the butt as well as the thighs and entire genital area. Sensations can run from sharp stinging slaps to deep penetrating thuds. It all depends on the force and shape/material of the implement. With a bare hand, there are lots of variations — you can grab the ass after the slap, use nails to make impressions or scratches, or make fists to punch. You can have bare dry or wet palms or even wear gloves - latex, rubber, or another one of my favorites: boxing gloves.
Besides tangible things like rhythm, implements and bruises, there’s mental environment as well. The fantasies, role-playing, and variety of situations where spanking can occur whether it be pure wall-to-wall spanking, or if a simple spank is slipped in during sex to help enhance the mood. I like to smack partners as I near climax to encourage them to fuck a little harder. Slapping from the bottom?
Tips for Tops include asking a new spanking buddy to rate the initial slap from 1 to 10 (1 being ‘not enough’ and 10 being ‘way too much’) or, to give two options and ask which feels better, the first one (slightly lighter) or the second one (slightly harder). Like taking an eye test at the optometrist.
It was my recent interest in spanking which caused me to jump at the opportunity to read Spanked: Red Cheeked Erotica, a collection of short stories edited by renown editor/author Rachel Kramer Bussel on the theme of spanking. Education and erotic stories like those in Spanked: Red Cheeked Erotica help me understand my own fears and fantasies associated with spanking. Here are some sections I identified with for various reasons:
Spanking You - Spanking has the ability to empower, particularly in terms of body acceptance. It took me a long time to accept my curvy ass, which I had long despised for being too feminine. Reclaiming it has been part of my overall acceptance of my body particularly in how it relates to my gender and sexual identity.
The Depths of Despair - As a degradation bottom, I was pleasantly shocked to read and understand the main character’s progression throughout the story. And even though I quickly recognized the scene and knew what was coming, it still made me cry. Gawd I’m a pushover.
Logan - Your classic ‘gay girl wants straight girl but can’t have her so she pretends to be the boyfriend when straight girl is blindfolded’ story. Plus I LOVE thud-type spanks so here’s a hot excerpt that made my right butt cheek flinch when I read it.
“Yeah, I felt like shit. But I couldn’t take anything back. Not a fuckin’ thing. And the thought of this made me whack her with that skateboard… I aimed at the dead center of her buttocks and caught it just right. This caused the entire chair to move, and the flesh on her ass sprang back and forth… the wheels went spinning on the skateboard, the ball bearings mimicking the raindrops that sprinkled against the windows.
“Uhmmm,” she moaned. “What the fuck is that? Shit, damn, that’s good,” she said.” - excerpt from Logan, by Rosalind Christine Lloyd
It’s not often that I read erotica cover to cover. However this book, for me anyway, was a bit different because it provided fantasy, validation, and some really hot sex in the context of spanking. Thank you RKB!
Links:
Get Spanked! on amazon *How many times do you get to say that?
Visit the book’s blog AND watch the trailer - Yes, a video trailer for a book. And it’s so cute cute cute.
Bonus: A great video I’ve watched with Gina Grant, which shows some good rules about Impact Play is available at BehindKink.com. You may have to register to view it, it’s free. Gina Grant helps Annette Schwarz Dom
by Jiz Lee ~ August 20, 2008
When it rains, it porns.
Work doesn’t come too often for a genderqueer dyke/fag pornstar who doesn’t like to shave.
So imagine my surprise to book not one but TWO porno shoots this weekend.
SCORE!!!
The first is with Pink & White Productions for CrashPadSeries.com. And guess who’s the lucky one? I am!! Okay, okay, besides me …
Dallas! I’m so excited, I have visions of sweet rough housing and deep kisses and maybe even a rope dildo if there’s time… Oh geez I can’t wait. I absolutely adored her in the previous two episodes of the website, one with Vai and the other with my partner Shawn — if that ain’t the hottest shit in the world, I dunno what is.
srsly.
I drown on drool, and soon can’t tell what part of me is wetter, head or tails.
[insert goofy pervy grin here]
The OTHER shoot is for Madison Young’s new video line via Madison Bound Productions that she’s been filming under the distributor Abigail Productions/Girlfriends Films. I shot a film recently with co-stars Dylan Ryan and Lorelei Lee, and another film with Shawn that I just can’t wait to get my hands on. This next one scheduled for this weekend has me paired with a fierce queer dom by the name of Selina Raven, and I’m sexily anxious.
Though this film wont be nearly as S/M as the mistress’s likes are described on her website, I’ve been using the site as homework. She takes her stuff seriously and I feel honored to be paired up with her. This is my favorite picture, found on SelinaRaven.com photo credit by Ashley Fontenot. I like it because it makes me think of big circus cats; only in this photo, the cat and the trainer are reversed. She seems nice. I particularly like the way she describes her profession/lifestyle/passion on her site. I have a feeling this could be a really good pairing. Okay, so maybe I’ll trim a little, just for her. ; )
I’ll let you know how it goes… go pussy go!
by Jiz Lee ~ August 20, 2008
I recently discovered DigiRomp, an erotic lesbian social network that kicks ass WAY beyond any other network. It’s like if you took the best of OurChart.com, Facebook/Myspace, and the Lexington Bar, and crammed them all into one beautiful pussy. You’d get DigiRomp.
Image from DigiRomp. Yes, femmes. Yes other identities, too. [And maybe they’ll expand their gender/orientation options a bit? But it’s a GREAT start!]
The site has blogs, diaries “aka VERY explicit erotica, yum”, and also photo/video uploads. It’s on the cutting-edge of technology — you can even upload a video directly from your ipod touch. DigiRomp is adult-minded, and loves queer porn, so it gets extra brownie points from me.
Least I forget, the creator is hot as hell, too. She’s gorgeously geeky and you get to watch her uploaded video tangents recorded as she was creating the site.
I created a profile, and look forward to reading more juicy diary entries. Maybe I’ll post a video or two. What do you think?
by Jiz Lee ~ August 14, 2008
Pink & White Productions was just featured on Fleshbot! So was a round-up of Comstock’s hot POC (Pornstars of Color!) Ashley & Kisha: Finding the Right Fit, and Bondage IT Girl budding director Madison Young (Bride of Sin). And some other stuff that look interesting.
It’s all pretty femme, the stuff that Fleshbot likes. Which is fine and makes sense as it’s also categorized on their ’straight’ section of their site. Would a clip from ‘Two Wrestling Bois’ make it to their ‘gay’ section? Probably not. Hopefully viewers looking for the more masculine side of pussy will still click through and find what their hearts desire at CrashPadSeries.com.
Then again, it’s not likely that queers from the community find their own porn through straight/mainstream sites like Fleshbot. Or do they? I found porn through word of mouth, and later, through links from sites that Pink & White links to. How do YOU find the smut you want?
by Jiz Lee ~ August 13, 2008
Remember the blog I wrote back in… April… about the lack of Asian Men (and to be specific, straight Asian American men) in porn? Well, I interviewed Jeffery Lei, director of the ‘documentary’ Dick Ho: Asian Male Pornstar and it was picked up by Good Vibes Magazine. It’s the lead article on their site, so go check it out!
magazine.goodvibes.com
(And comment on the article, please!)
I wrote another article that takes a broader look at what else is out there… you know, because it’s almost 2009 for shit sakes and there’s still not that much representation in porn. So look forward to that post. Thanks Dick for the Interview!
by Jiz Lee ~ August 5, 2008
I’m a pornsaint!
Jeff Aerber (http://www.jefffaerber.com) did a fabulous depiction of me, and I’ll soon be added to the PornSaint collection.
What is a pornsaint? Only one of the best ideas ever!
In a nutshell, pornsaints is an artistic approach to porn, a pornographic approach to art, and a pornoartistic approach to religion… and a whole lot more. Browse the collection on their website, and read more about them: http://www.pornsaints.org/
I’ll let you know when Jeff’s image is up on the site and you can all go check it out, and even order prints. They hold exhibits globally. They’re good people.
by Jiz Lee ~ August 5, 2008
Babeland is having a 20% off sale on Waterproof vibes. (See below).
And, funny enough, the image they’re using for this sale sure as hell could be my doppleganger. The model looks so much like me that even I did a double-take when I looked at it and had to think to myself if I had ever done a bathtub shoot. I have, but it’s quite different. (The one on the left is NOT me!)
| My doppleganger in the bath |
Me and my other twin in the bath |
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The Waterproof sale… if little rubber duckie vibes aren’t really your thing, be glad that the waterproof sale at Babeland’s website is actually much more than meets the eye. I’ll give you three toys that are currently 20% off, which at first glance, definitely caught my attention.
From left to right: a nice-ass butt plug, ASLAN harness and Vixen Dildo (a great combination of good quality toys!), and the Ideal Vibe… which is pretty much the closest you can get to bringing your hitachi magic wand on your next camping trip.
If you like any of these, click the image to learn more at Babeland.
by Jiz Lee ~ July 30, 2008
For those of you who found my WTF page, which I created solely for the delightfully bizarre creature who is featured there, you’ll be thrilled to learn that the identity, or at least, background story, for Yinling has been reveiled. She is Erotic Terrorist. Hell yeah.
A commenter, jmz:36, is my new nerd god. It was only a matter of time that some savy reader would know more about the image, and now, I must find a new WTF. (Any leads?)
Here is a snippet of Yinling’s background… Shawn, you may have met your match!
She is a Taiwanese model, and also appeared in the professional wrestling promotion Hustle under the heel alias Yinling the Erotic Terrorist, but now appears under the name Newling-sama (ie. ‘Mistress Newling’). The story goes that she was “killed off” during a wrestling match and re-emerged under her evil Yinling persona, and has recently given birth to Monster Bono, after been hit by The Great Muta’s Green mist in the genitals. Warcraft, you aint got shit on this bitch. ; )
Official website! www.mostsexy.net
by Jiz Lee ~ July 24, 2008
Why have my posts become less frequent? Because I’m hooked on Twitter.
Which is really pretty ridiculous since I only have, like, 20 followers or something. But it’s just so damn addicting!
(thx @iamfivestar for introducing me to distraction heaven.)
I just wish my closest of closest friends would join so I could follow them. But most of them say… “Twitter? Nah…”
Come on it’s fun! Shawn always texts me one-liner updates anyway.
“Your boyfriend has fleas.”
Could EASILY be: “@jezinyoureye, your boyfriend has fleas.”
FYI- My “boyfriend” is a black shorthair cat named Henry (formerly known as Paper-Weight, who was born Harry on a ranch up north). He has more names than I do!
His new one is Boyfriend or BF for short. BF loves up on me when I’m over at Shawn’s house doing work. He likes the spot on my lap between my belly and the keyboard. Last weekend he officially became ‘Boyfriend‘ when he laid on my lap for a record-breaking 10 consecutive hours. (I was actually working much longer than that, but the cat had better things to do, like go outside… and apparently, get fleas).
Come follow me on Twitter! twitter.com/jezinyoureye
